I had a question/dilemma for my readers.
I'm not one to adapt to social demands because of "looks" or disapproving comments. And dissenting comments here probably won't change my habits either (unless given with a large sum of cash).
But I like to know when I'm being facetious.* It's so much more fun when you're "in the know". So here it goes:
When Samantha was 3 weeks old, I remember a mom sitting behind us in church with a simple, large blanket, nursing her son. The only reason I noticed her was because I had to get up and nurse my own in the bathroom (I was still learning and needed to see what I was doing). I was very jealous (and impressed) and wondered if I would ever get to that point; that is, comfortable enough to nurse in public, and smooth enough so as not to flash the whole congregation.
Fast forward to now. I have to say I'm quite proud of myself. Sam and I have the whole visually appeasing routine down pat. However, with as loud as Samantha eats (and demands to eat) one may as well have x-ray vision. There's no question as to what is going on under the blanket.
Because of this, when at our parish (the one with the cry-room) I will nurse in the back or in the cry room itself. When at the other parish (the one with no cry-room) I've decided it's more distracting to get up and find a place while she's begging to nurse then to just let her eat in the pew.
A couple of weeks ago, however, I was at the church with the cry-room, but I was smack dab in the middle of the pew. I ended up just nursing her there. Sam was actually fairly quiet (despite a couple suction-cup like pull offs). Whilst doing so I got many different looks. One lady smiled knowingly. A few quickly looked away. My favorite was the glare-from across the church.
Anyway, my question to you all is, what do you think is appropriate for church? Even if you yourself wouldn't do it, is it ok for other moms who feel comfortable?
And what do you do if there isn't somewhere you can go?
And if there is a cry-room, is it kosher to nurse in there? (for reasons why it's worse a lot of times in a cry-room, see here and here)
Ok, that was more than one question, but take your pick!
*thank you, spell check- I was WAY off
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