Jer and I have decided to get really gazelle intense.
Long story short, we're seriously considering moving in with my parents for while (max 2 years) to help us knock out most, if not all, of our debt.
My mom said everyone has to write down any concerns, and we will all bring them together later and discuss.
The only problem/issue/concern that I have is that of space. We'd take over the small bedroom downstairs. All three (future four?) of us.
Anything else anyone can think of?
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We currently live with my father-in-law, so if you have any questions you want to email me, feel free! I do think it's a very good idea to get all of your expectations out in the open from the very beginning. I also think it's good to realize this is not a permanent thing, and that you can/should move out whenever you feel you should (whether that's six months into it or sixteen months or even sixty!). Your situation is much different than ours, though, because we moved in and took over the master bedroom and all the cooking and everything. Good luck discerning if this is the path you should take!
Good luck! It would be nice to be rid of all your debt! I would be concerned about space and about expectations.
I am all for getting out of debt! And the earlier the better. Two thoughts: 1) Have you changed your spending patterns so you will not just get back into debt again? Living with your parents--thoughts: They need to write down all the "rules"--and you need to talk about what you are going to do to "contribute" to the household (areas of cleaning, cooking, laundry, grocery shopping, etc.) Expectations need to be addressed up front. Will it bother them every time they see you spend money on something, since you are living there in order to get out of debt? You may expect that you can leave the baby there with Grandma any time to run an errand. She may think that you will take care of picking up after yourselves in the same (neatnik) way that she takes care of the house. Etc., etc., etc. Meals, cleaning, yours and their entertaining, times of rising and going to bed, laundry, groceries, schedules, babysitting, "who's in charge" of your child (child training, etc.), family privacy and separateness (and togetherness)--all need to be discussed. As well as how you will leave, when it is time. Your husband's needs have to be considered very important--you are a separate family unit, and you are his wife.
It can work out, if all are willing to be unselfish, communicate, and show love.
I hope it works out for you, because getting out of debt is definitely worth it!
Blessings,
Wendy
Wow...some excellent advice from folks. Granddad says, "Remember that you are a separate family unit, living with an extended family unit". In other words, your needs and habits as a couple may enhance or reduce the living environment of your extended family. For you guys, access to the kitchen and who cooks when, could be an issue. Of course, you could just move to Texas and we'll work it out here....hee hee...
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